The Gray Area In Between

What have relationships come down to? Or were they always like this? Everyone just wants to know what you can offer them. No one is willing to stick around if they aren’t gaining anything from you. It’s so sad how self-centered two people can be with each other. Relationships should be about giving and taking. Giving because you want to give not because you are expected to give. Taking b/c it is a form of showing the person that they are meaningful in your life. But all we want to do is take take and take. We want to take and we want to customize a person according to what we want. We are many times unintentionally pressurizing each other to be a certain way by condemning each other’s actions. Why can’t we accept those actions as part of the person who overall makes us happy. So what If she/he does one thing which isn’t according to you? Isn’t that what compromise is all about? Shouldn’t you be willing to sacrifice something for the sake of that relationship? You can justify yourself and say, well why should I be the one sacrificing? But if you really care then would that question even matter. You would want to be the one sacrificing because to care for someone is to be selfless at times. Atleast when it matters. 

All these things are so complicated. At times they seem black and white. Either you care for someone or you don’t. But then it just seems gray. You care but only if. There are conditions to caring. There are conditions to being in a relationship. There are conditions to being friends. It shouldn’t be so. You hardly find a person who is willing to share a unconditional relationship. So when that person comes along do not be stupid enough to misjudge him/her. Such purity is rare.